Sometimes, a question lingers long after it’s been asked, and it changes you.

Recently, I had one of those moments. I was having a conversation with a friend and coach, someone who’s been helping me get crystal clear about my message as a parenting coach. We were bouncing around ideas when he paused, looked at me, and asked, “But why? Why do you do this work?”
At first, the answer seemed simple. “Well,” I said, “I want to help make parenting easier. I want to help parents tackle tantrums, overcome sibling rivalry, and work through co-parenting challenges.”
He nodded, but he wasn’t satisfied. “I understand that,” he replied, “but why?”
I took a deeper breath. “Because I want to help parents connect more deeply with their children and strengthen their bond.”
He nodded again, more thoughtfully this time. “Yes, but why is that so important to you?”
This time, his question struck a nerve. I felt myself slow down, searching for words that suddenly felt weighty and profound. “Because how parents relate to their children shapes how children relate to themselves. It affects their sense of self-worth, their relationships, and how well they navigate life’s challenges.”
I thought I’d given him my final answer, but he pressed further, “And why does that matter to you?”
That’s when it all came rushing out.
I lowered my head, feeling emotion well up as I whispered, “I want children to feel deeply loved by their parents because that’s how they learn to love themselves. It becomes their template for love—what they’ll accept as love in their relationships.”
The room fell silent, and he allowed the moment to settle. I continued, as emotions spilled over.
“I didn’t feel loved as a child. I believed I was unlovable, and that belief followed me into my adult relationships. I allowed myself to be treated in unlovable ways because I didn’t know what real love was supposed to feel like. I didn’t want others to feel that way, especially not children.”
My friend still said nothing, giving me space to find my voice.
“I don’t want this for other children. I want parents to feel loved, to heal their own wounds so they can love their children unconditionally—just as they, too, deserved to be loved. We need to stop this cycle of hurt.”
Finally, after a long pause, he looked at me and said:
“Now share that message.”
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Hi, I’m Ebiere, a Therapeutic Coach for Parents.
I work empathetically and compassionately with parents to help them connect deeply with their children, building relationships rooted in love and understanding.
Through my 19 years of experience, I guide parents in developing five key skills that empower them to navigate tantrums, sibling dynamics, and co-parenting challenges with confidence and ease.
I believe every child deserves to feel loved unconditionally, and that by supporting parents, we can break cycles of hurt and foster a world of self-loving, resilient children.
This is my purpose. And this is the heart of my journey and the heart of my work.
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